What do men think?

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Permalink Reply by James Ryan on July 17, 2009 at 3:54pm

It would have to be really bad. I might be more shallow than Mr. Shah, cuz I'm usually thinking about what she looks like WITHOUT clothes.

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Permalink Reply by Duke Snyder on July 17, 2009 at 9:29pm

Being unabashedly honest and brutal, not to mention having experiences in more than a couple discussions among other men on such or similar subjects regarding impacting statements by females I am led to agree with the opening reply.
Not being here to be either politically or morally correct I will merely make reference of the adage that "sex sells."
My basic take on the question is to say a man's reaction to her dress for a first date being anything totally indictative of her realness may say more about him than her...does he evaluate women only with his "lower" brain?

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Permalink Reply by Michael R. on July 18, 2009 at 3:49pm

The less she wears the better:) j/k

Nah, if a guy ditches a woman based on what she's wearing he's probably one of those metrosexual types and they aren't real men to begin with so she's probably better off.

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Permalink Reply by James Ryan on July 18, 2009 at 7:50pm

Yeah, I read the article. (Yes, I get GQ) That Shah guy was definitely waaaay to picky. You're probably right Michael.

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Permalink Reply by Brett Davis on July 19, 2009 at 11:07pm

I wouldn't reject a woman because she was wearing close that are not in style.

I think there are a few scenarios that I would reject a woman based upon her clothes:

1. She wore a tshirt that was for a cause/issue I was against.
2. She dressed really skanky. Her clothes are too tight and/or shows a little too much.
3. She wears clothes that do not complement her body. Think of a woman that wears a shirt to show off her belly button, but she is 10-15 pounds over weight.

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Permalink Reply by Erik Deckers on July 19, 2009 at 11:17pm

I just take a look at what the woman is wearing, check to make sure she's wearing the wedding ring I placed on her finger, and then I'm happy.

I never cared what women wore when I was dating, and it sounds like Neel Shah is going to be single for a verrrry long time if he ditches women for being unstylish.

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Permalink Reply by John Cannon on July 23, 2009 at 7:08pm

"I just take a look at what the woman is wearing, check to make sure she's wearing the wedding ring I placed on her finger, and then I'm happy."

Very smooth, Mr. Deckers, very smooth! lol And now, ladies and gentlemen, you know exactly how big ol' goofy guys like Erik and I can be married to such wonderful, amazing women! lol
--John Cannon
www.MyCarDoc.com

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Permalink Reply by Cissi Sherlock on July 20, 2009 at 12:34am

Conidering Mr. Shah was the type of man that would even have a story printed in GQ tells you that he has some unrealistic expectation of women and that he looks in the mirror and reminds himself that he is his own best friend!

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Permalink Reply by Bradley Stone on July 20, 2009 at 1:55am

I know we're not talking about marriage here but I always liked this quote by Nietzsche:

"Marriage is a long conversation. When marrying, one should ask oneself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this woman into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory, but the most time during the association belongs to conversation."

In other words (or the way I interpret it) fashion, beauty, etc can fade but the beauty of great conversation can last. So style isn't that important to me particularly. I do like women who seem comfortable being women. I like femininity. I miss dresses. But all that stuff really takes second seat to good conversation and the ability to be comfortable with a woman.

Physical attraction of course has to be there in the initial stages of a relationship. He's talking about dates I guess and of course men like to have women dress nicely for dates because it makes them feel like the woman is interested in the date but style doesn't seem to have as much to do with it for me as the fact that the woman took the time to look nice in whatever style they find appealing to themselves. So I say as long as my date doesn't show up in dirty sweat pants they get the benefit of of the doubt :)

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Permalink Reply by Karen Gill on July 21, 2009 at 10:27pm

Good points, Bradley. Love the Nietzsche quote.

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Permalink Reply by David Mark on July 20, 2009 at 7:49am

John Lennon said it best ... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PaLfDnShEn0

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Permalink Reply by Noah Coffey on July 20, 2009 at 10:49am

I think how a woman (or a man, for that matter) dresses for a date says a lot about how they feel about themselves and how they feel about you. For me, it's more about the intent behind the clothing than the actual end result. If a woman has obviously attempted to dress nice for our date, but her style was a little off, I don't see myself thinking less of her (I'm not exactly Mr. Style anyway). If she didn't appear to put any effort behind her appearance, then I would probably be turned off by that. Similarly, if a guy shows up on a date and looks like he threw on what was laying on the floor, I would expect his date to be turned off.

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