What has been the most surprising thing about your marriage?

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Permalink Reply by Steve Stuck on October 30, 2009 at 8:42pm

Marriage is awesome and a lot of work. Here is one example of our marriage. I am a big college football fan and spend most of my Saturdays glued to the TV. To offset her putting up with this, I bypass a lot of other sports I used to follow and work all spring and summer around the house improving it. I pitch in on dishes and vacuuming couple times a month and she has no problem with my down time during the fall.

I call my wife my bride, because it just seems like yesterday we were dancing at our wedding reception. The golden rule we live by is not going to bed mad. We get things worked out and settle it right then and there.

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Permalink Reply by Chuck Lasker on October 31, 2009 at 12:16am

The surprise for me is that we've lasted 27 years. I got married at 19, while in college, and everyone I knew, especially my family, was against it. Sharon's family was against it, too, so we had a battle. Everything about how we got together and how quickly (10 months after we met) we got married put our marriage against the odds. It was simply assumed that we would not work.

Now, it hasn't been all honeymoon. There have been times when we almost didn't make it. But we stuck together and, luckily, grew in the same directions. What matters, I believe, is we've had the same values - the same basic desire to do good, be honest, help others, and strive for happiness.

We still hold hands, cuddle, desire each others' company more than anyone else's, and argue, cry and hurt each other emotionally now and then. But that makes it a real marriage, a good, strong marriage. What a surprise to be happy after all this time!

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Permalink Reply by Michael R. on October 31, 2009 at 7:17am

I'm not married, but, Annie, will you marry me? Damn the law!!

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Permalink Reply by Annie Sever-Dimitri on November 1, 2009 at 6:48pm

Michael, you are such a hoot!! :)

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Permalink Reply by Julie Vidaurrazaga on November 2, 2009 at 2:41pm

Having not been married that long I think the thing that surprises me the most is hearing negative comments from people about marriage. Upon hearing I'm a newlywed and me relating how blessed I am to have such a wonderful husband I've heard anything from "just wait for the divorce" to "just wait for the honeymoon to end" and "that's what everyone says at first". I think it's a really sad statement about that person's attitude for them to look at marriage that way. I'm one bride that thinks marriage is FANTASTIC and much more than it's made out to be! My husband is so awesome.

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Permalink Reply by Marita Topmiller on November 10, 2009 at 3:35pm

Even after 30 plus years of marriage, kind gestures still surprise me, a sudden swirl around the dining room
dance floor; walking in the door to a clean kitchen (!); clean refrigerator (!!). Not that my husband can't do
those things of course, but that he does them on his own initiative. Another thing that has really surprised
me is the fact that we are still together throughout SO many changes and still find things to laugh about.
Thanks, Annie.

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